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I can't fit it all in! I'm 39, have a full time job, 3 kids (4 counting my husband), 2
dogs, parents who need my help and a volunteer organization that is demanding of my time.
I'm also trying to take on classes toward my MBA each quarter. Could you give me some time
management tips-fast?
Need More Time
Dear Need
More Time,
Time management is not
what you need. You need to apply the brakes or they will be applied for you in ways you
won't like. It seems our goals in what has become "a race to the finish" have
gone awry. It has become a contest of cramming the most in. Doing it all but
experiencing little. Quantity, not quality. Was it Peggy Lee who sang "Is That All
There Is?"? The answer is both Yes and No. Yes-we eat, we sleep, we work, we play, we
live. That's "all" there is. But No, that's not all there is in that it's how we
do those things, the quality of the activity, that makes it broader, more complete
experience than what is seen on the surface.
Granted, we are victims of high technology, faster-is-better era, but it's
important we recognize we've created this (both individually and globally) ourselves. The
good news is that we can stop the runaway train. There are many promising signs of
awakening as people being to realize that this is not a contest or a race but an
intriguing (if not always Disneyesque) ride. Our only job is to make the time to enjoy it.
I've got advice for time management, but I shan't be detailing it here. Your first step is
to make a huge effort to cut back on the activity (stop the classes for now), get domestic help, if only for one or two hours a week, and leave the
volunteering for a few years down the road. Once you eliminate some activities
and create more time, you may not need as much time management as you thought. Your kids
need that time now, and so do YOU. One thing you might want to think about "cramming
in" before the year ends? A wonderful, if inexpensive, vacation for you and your
husband.
KRS
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I'm a 34 year old working mom who is having trouble finding time for myself. Since I had
my baby, it seems that I finish my "paycheck job" and head home to another full
time job. Since she's in daycare all day, I want to be with her as much as possible
the rest of the time. I'm not asking for two weeks in Hawaii, just a break here and
there.
No Time for Myself
Dear No Time for Myself,
It may not come as a surprise to you that the average combined home/office work week for
women is 75 hours compared to only 62 hours for men (a 13 hour difference!). So you're not
imagining things. You really do have a demanding schedule. But congratulations
for recognizing that you need a "balance adjustment" instead of seeing how fast
you can run and for how long. A break "here and there" can be quite
powerful and is well within your reach. It will revitalize you to feel better about
yourself and to be a better mom. I'll give you a few ideas that you can expand to
suit your particular lifestyle. Write them down with others you think of so they'll
be handy on days you are too exhausted to think.
Buy special soothing music to play in your car and at home instead of listening to the
news (baby will respond to it too). Make a ritual of taking a bath each night (after
your little one is firmly ensconced in the Land of Nod). Light candles, play soft
music and sip herbal tea while you visualize being on a quiet beach in Hawaii. It'll
help restore mental and physical calm along with a sense of balance.
KRS
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How do I set a realistic time frame to work out and then stick with it? My goals are
either too high or non-existent.
Finding Time To Exercise
Dear Finding Time,
The answer is in your question. Be REALISTIC. Grand goals can be quite
debilitating if they are not realistic. Realistic means that the workout fits
comfortably into your schedule. What is realistic for your best friend may not be
realistic for you. Start with a Less-is-More mentality and make up a non-ambitious
but SPECIFIC workout schedule. If in a few weeks you are not sticking with it, lessen your
schedule a bit more. On the other hand, if you are sticking with it and want to do
more, resist the temptation until you have a solid 2-3 months of "workout
success" under your belt (and less fat) and then rethink it. If you still feel
the need, gradually increase your schedule. You may find some extra workout time by
analyzing your calendar and commitments and making some changes and/or sacrifices.
The point is, if you establish a doable workout schedule, you will be more likely to stick
with it. It's sort of a Catch 22. An
added bonus: These same "set realistic goals" skills
will translate to the rest of your life as well, including your
career.
KRS
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